Hands that See

HANDS THAT SEE

In that classic movie in 1939, The Wizard of Oz. The plot revolves around things the characters want. The scarecrow wants a brain. The lion wants courage. The tin man wants a heart. Dorothy wants to fly over the rainbow.

I suppose the movie is unforgettable because most of us at some times want something more than we have. When I get that want mood, try to remember true stories like this one.

A number of years ago back in Missouri a night patrolling policeman stopped to check out a suspicious looking scene.  A car was parked on the dark street and a man was working underneath it.  The cop naturally suspected somebody was pilfering parts.  He called the man out from under the car and got one of the bigger surprises of his career I think.  The midnight mechanic was a multi-talented young medical student.  He was fixing his car because like most students he was on a tight budget and didn’t want to pay a garage.  Also he was very handy with his hands, had been since the days he grew up on the farm in southern Utah.  Mechanical work was a refreshing break for him from the mental grind of medical studies.

But why in the dark?  The young medical student explained to the policeman, “Because I’m not handicapped like you and most other people. You have to have light to see things.” I can see with my hands.

The policeman saw the light, so to speak. Got in his car and went to his patrolling shaking his head in amusement.

The medical student/mechanic went back to his fixing his car in the dark. He had learned to see with his hands and fingers since he lost his sight in a childhood accident.

The policeman is one of a long line of people who were amazed at what this man could see and do with his hands.

He was a high school wrestler, played a little guitar and musical saw for recreation, raised a fine family and contributed to his church and community.  His BYU graduating class of 1936 honored him as its most successful student.  He was featured in a verse of a song by Janice Kapp Perry titled “The Test.”  He has blessed the lives of thousands through his long career.

But this remarkable man saw with more than his hands.  He saw with his mind, and heart. With these he gained his insights into life and how to live it to the fullest despite, or perhaps because of challenges.  We are privileged to have known this good man could see without sight, Dr. Iliff Jeffery.

Epistle: What Can We Achieve 3.29.17

Motivational speakers sometimes say, “Anything the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.”  Some people find this saying inspirational.  Others express reservations that it is merely psychological hype and does not describe the challenges in the real world.  They note that conditions in the environment limit us.

No less a man than Elder Neal A. Maxwell, a man of great mind and spirit, but modest stature recounted how he wanted to be a basketball player, but felt he was just too short. External circumstances, mental, physical, maybe social may somewhat limit us in the accomplishment of our aspirations.  But they may also lead us into areas where we can excel as they did Elder Maxwell.

All of us have experienced failures in life.  If we haven’t that is no great compliment to us.  It just means we have set our goals too low.

I think most of us do conceive and achieve below our potential, and that little motto may motivate us.  My difference of opinion with the statement is not because it promises too much, but because it promises too little.  It limits our possibilities to what we can conceive.  But the Lord declared, “Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.(I Cor. 2:9) And these things are totally within the grasp of each of us.  These promises so outshine the goals that this world generally aspires to that they are quite beyond our comprehension.  The achievement motto may be appropriate for worldly aspirations.  But in our relationship with the Lord it might be more accurate to say, “If we will believe, what we can receive is far beyond our power to conceive.”

Happy Valentine’s Day 2018!

I know we are a little late, so we wanted to be the first to wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day for 2018!

 

My friend Dick Davis

My lifelong friend, and performing buddy Dick Davis passed away Wednesday July 20, 2016. I was out of town, and got the word when I returned.

He, Denis Sorenson and I formed The Three D’s singing and comedy trio in the 1960’s. We recorded for Capitol Records, toured the United States and Canada, as well as swings through Vietnam, Korea and Japan entertaining American troops and local citizens. Accompanying ourselves on guitars, string bass, banjos, and occasionally a trumpet, we did folk songs, Broadway and movie themes, original tunes, and stitched the whole thing together with comedy. Nobody could pull off a punch line like Dick could.

He and I got together way back in junior high school. We played sports, performed for local functions on our trumpets and in the school and city band, studied a bit (Dick more than I. His dad was a school principal), fooled around a lot, and wowed with our ukuleles the beautiful girls we dated.

Great memories, and great anticipations. I assume Dick is putting together gigs of some kind up there, and will invite me to be a part of them.

The day after prom night

It is said that you can choose your friends but not your relatives. But sometimes a friend may choose you, and even make you a relative. One of my friends did this. She is a friend of one of our granddaughters. When as young girls they came to our house to play our granddaughter, of course, called me “Grandpa.”

One day My Friend asked, “Can I call you grandpa too?”

“I would be honored,” I answered. I was and am.

Fast forward a few years. The day after prom night at our high school is an unofficial fashion show at our church. The guys have rented their tuxes on the weekend rate since they can’t return them on Sunday when the tux stores are closed. The girls love to give their special prom dresses one more showing before the enchanted evening gowns go carefully into the storage box and the attic or under the bed. Who knows when another appropriate occasion for them will arise?

My Friend already had her special prom present in its box when I met her in the hallway of the church. The box seemed a little small for a dress. I said, “Hi My Friend, what’s in the box?”

“Hi Grandpa. I’ll show you.” She pulled open the cover just enough so I could see the “prom dress,” and its little beady eyes peering out from the sawdust saw me.

My friend explained, “Last night was prom night, but nobody asked me, so I got this to make me feel better.”

“Of course. He’s cute.”

“He’s a she. She’s a hedgehog.”

She continued down the hall.

I thought, “What was this little hedgehog last night, a lady in waiting to my friend the princess a.k.a Cinderella?”

My Friend can build worlds of her own. I’m honored that she lets me help populate them as one of her grandpas.

The Upside of Autism

A friend of ours, Jarom Matsuda, sent us a video of his son Eli reciting the ‘Begats’ from the Old Testament CD by the D’s. I thought you might enjoy it.

Dan Hiatt

Rex and Beth, a love story

My uncle Rex Wride was every teenage boy’s idol. He owned a Harley Hog when far fewer Americans rode motorcycles. He was a pilot, and an officer in the Civil Air Patrol. (He tried to join the Air Force, but failed the physical.) He was movie star handsome; a dashing babe magnet who always had a new beauty on his arm. He traveled to Europe and various spots in America.

Sometimes he took my brother or my mother and me along. My first view of southern California is burned indelibly in my heart, mind, and imagination. We crested the San Bernardino Pass, left behind us the snow flecked cold deserts and cruised down to the palm trees and then the white surf and deep blue endless depths of the Pacific Ocean. Relaxing in a roadside stand crunching deep fried giant prawns courtesy of Uncle Rex and sipping freshly squeezed orange juice (not the strange pasteurized concoction they gave us back home in grade school,) changed this country boy’s world view forever. The southern California I saw then will always be the Land of Oz to me because of Uncle Rex.

He owned what we then called a portable radio. Today we might call it a portable hernia maker. Full of electricity sucking vacuum tubes and powered by a battery about the weight of six bricks, the whole unit was more like a mountain climber’s backpack than the microscopic slivers we wear today. But it had no power cord attached and was therefore magic. I admired it. Uncle Rex gave it to me on the spot. My mother protested but Uncle Rex insisted.

Who wouldn’t love an uncle like this? Apparently few, especially of the fair gender.

Why then hadn’t one of these ravishing beauties captured him long ago? I couldn’t figure it out.

Then one day I saw him pushing a hypodermic needle into the skin of his thigh. It made me shudder. But I still couldn’t put the puzzle together.

Pause here while those of you who are old enough can remember, and those who are not can imagine the innocent naïve world of a few decades ago.

Today everybody could instantly see the problem. Drugs. And everybody would be wrong. The shot was not cocaine or heroin. It was insulin, my mother explained to me later. Since he was a boy Rex had endured the kind of diabetes that never lets go of you. It drains your strength, weakens your resistance, and shortens your life.

Rex was determined to not burden a woman with a husband whose years would be few, and problems many. So he never got serious with his beautiful friends.

Enter Beth, lovely, educated, and talented flight hostess for TWA airlines.

Beth’s mother was wrestling with a flat tire by the side of the highway near American Fork Utah when Rex drove by headed the other direction. Being Rex he spun his car around and took over the project. As he pulled off the offending flat and bolted on the spare, their conversation turned to family small talk. The woman mentioned her daughter stationed in Kansas. Rex mentioned his brother,  a soldier in Kansas. They traded addresses and telephone numbers. Rex later met Beth. He pursued her until she caught him I guess, as the old saying goes. He explained to her that he loved her, but refused to be a burden. She refused his refusal. They were married and lived happily ever after.

For six years, and three children.

Then the spoiler clamped down. Diabetes ravaged his body. He died.

It is hard enough to endure the loss of a beloved companion under any circumstances, but to know in advance that your time together will be short raises the commitment to a new level I think.

Beth shouldered the burden of loneliness and of providing for their two boys age four and two and their new born baby girl. She bought a restaurant named Holiday Inn. Work, work, nurture children, sleep a little labor a lot. When the national corporation threatened to sue her if she didn’t change the name. She stared them down with documentation that her restaurant was “Holiday Inn” before their company existed. Knowing her, I wouldn’t be surprised if she also asked if they wanted the publicity of running a widow supporting three children out of business. The big boys backed down. As far as we know Salt Lake City boasts the only Holiday Inn not part of the worldwide chain.

Long hours, little sleep, chutzpah, and faith brought out a previously hidden talent in Beth, a gift for business. The restaurant provided their needs, and enough to spare that she got into home real estate. She also bought land in the mountains and with family help built a retreat for the family and friends. Children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren carry forever the golden memories of stays in the cabin. Generations rise up calling her blessed.

The closing chapters of this part of the love story are mercifully brief. Instead of the Christmas festivities she and her family had planned, she entered the hospital for a few days.

She gathered her growing tribe of loved ones about her and told them as she had over the years, “I love you all. I love to be with you, and I am grateful to know that we will be a family forever.

“But I have spent 57 years living on the memories of six years. I long to be again with my husband, and very soon I will be.”

And thus it is. Last Thursday was a beautiful funeral, an appropriate tribute to a love that will never end.

HOW THE GRUMP SUED CHRISTMAS

Every True down in Trueville loved Christmas a lot,
But the Grump up in Sueville most surely did not.

He claimed to be happy and maybe he was,
Had no gripe with the reindeer or with Santa Claus.
He could join in the singing about peace on earth,
But he ground his Grump teeth about Jesus’ birth.
A star and bright angels why how could that be?
He said, “Superstition. Makes no sense to me.”
In matters of faith he would give not an inch.
His heart was as shriveled and cold as the Grinch.

He said, “If there’s one thing I thoroughly hate
It’s to have signs of churchiness mixed with the state
Never mind that our money says ‘In God we trust’
That’s an old fashioned notion that’s dry as the dust.”

So he thought till his humanist thinker was sore.
Then he thought with his humanist thinker some more.
Then he thought, “I know what I’ll do, just what I’ll do.
If anyone talks about Jesus I’ll sue.”

So he called up his lawyer friend Clyde the attorney.
And Clyde said up front, “What’s the fee it will earn me?”
The Grump said “I’m really embarrassed you’d ask
To be paid to be part of so worthy a task.
We are saving this land from religious fanatics,
The noblest victory since Appomattox.”

So the Grump and his side kick Clyde the Attorney
Set out on the work of their humanist journey.
The Grump sent out more than one great proclamation
To every far corner and edge of the nation.
“Better our walls should be filled with graffiti
Than we should help people have faith in a deity.”
“Season’s greetings,” they shouted, “Hooray Santa Claus”
But refused to acknowledge who’s season it was.

One day on the corner where Elm Street runs through
They chanced to meet sweet little Mindy Lou True.
They said to her, “What’s that bad song you are humming?”
“Away in a manger, for Christmas is coming.”
“That’s religious,” they scolded sweet Mindy Lou True
“Why if everyone sang that you know what they’d do?”

“They might do what Jesus did,” Mindy replied.
“They’d start to feel wonderfully happy inside

Their joy would spill out all over each other
They’d love everybody as sisters and brothers
We would humble ourselves and repent of our sins
And our frowns would be covered all over with grins
If we learned to love baby Jesus enough
We might even be willing to share all our stuff.”

“Stop your talk of religion,” the Grump and Clyde told her.
But Mindy Lou True became even bolder.
“Why that’s a religion that you two are preaching.
To me this makes more sense than what you are teaching.”

So the Grump and his lawyer had had quite enough.
They took off in a whiff. They took off in a huff.
Through the cities and towns they went suing and stopping
Any talk about Jesus, but they loved Christmas shopping.
Then they ran to their home to chuckle and chortle
Over how they stopped Jesus from looking immortal.

The Christmas they taught was no birth of a king.
It was kind of a warmed over washed out old thing.
Instead of the wise men with stars in their eyes,
We got Grump and his lawyer, couple a wise guys.
In the home of the free and the land of the brave
They made talk of the Savior a thing to be saved.

The Grump issued his seasonal formal decree,
“Mistletoe is ok and the log and the tree.
Happy holidays everyone have a good time
But don’t mention the Christ Child for that is a crime.
Season’s Greetings and have you a happy new year
Have a glass of spiked eggnog and send up a cheer.
But don’t set any manger scenes up now you hear?”

Grump said, “Those Truevillians are burning with rage.
They don’t know we have entered an enlightened age.
They don’t need faith and reverence the Grump said with pride.
They’ve got Rudolph and Santa. They’ve got me and Clyde.”

Then he heard in the street a low rumbling sound.
Like the thunder of elephants pounding the ground.
He looked out the window and all he could see.
Were the Trues up from Trueville the little city.
“Oh no,” cried the Grump, “They will lynch Clyde and me.”

But the Trues started singing a beautiful song.
They sang it out loud and they sang it out long.
They sang, “Jesus has told us to love everyone
For each of us is the Lord’s daughter or son.
You can’t take away Jesus, he’s still in our hearts,
And when we feel happiness that’s where it starts.
Though you’ve tried to stop Christmas, you’ve tried and you’ve tried,
We still care about you. And we even love Clyde.”

Then a new thought was born in the Grump’s little brain
He thought and he thought, and he thought once again.
It stretched in his mind till it even caused pain.
Could it be that religion is valuable too?
That the song of the Trues down in Trueville was true?
If it was, then the Grump and Clyde knew what to do.

The Grump’s brain grew more than three sizes that day.
He grew humble and some say he started to pray.
Even Clyde the attorney had something to say
Though he said it in quite an attorneyish way

“We the parties in question hereafter referred
As the parties fore mentioned first second and third
Express affirmation of what we have heard.”

Nobody from Trueville could tell what he meant
But they loudly applauded his worthy intent.
And the Trues and the Grump and the lawyer named Clyde
Felt a wonderful Christmasy feeling inside,
And it lasted, they say ’til the day that they died.

The End

(Chorus of Trues) Aaaaah Clyde​

Home Teaching, (sort of)

A few years ago a group of Mormons eager to show that members of the church were not the dour drones often pictured in the media and also eager to make enough money to pay a higher tithing put out a series of fluffy funny movies about our culture.

One of these was a slapstick comedy about home teachers. Home teachers are men and older boys called in pairs to look to the needs of families assigned to them. At least once a month they bring an uplifting message and offer their services for whatever needs the family has. My experience both in being a home teacher, and in having home teachers visit us is that the system works pretty well given the foibles of people. But that is a large given sometimes. Probably the main challenge is overcoming inertia on the part of the home teachers and scheduling a time with the “teachees” in our busy world of today.

But there is also such a thing as too much enthusiasm, and being too prompt in visiting. .How do I know? Been there done that, as the saying goes. My companion and I often get so involved in conversation with the family we are visiting that we are late for our next appointment.  But not this time. This time for some reason we were early, surprisingly early. So early that our next family was still having dinner with friends they had invited over. A perfect time for us to reschedule and slip away for a few minutes and return.

Option two was to barge in and enhance their festivities. We chose option two. I had even brought my guitar along as a special treat. I offered to play background music for their meal like a gypsy violinist at a swank restaurant. My offer moved them deeply. Their guests were so moved they moved from the dinner table down the hall, and escaped out the bathroom window I assume. We never saw them again.

Undeterred I broke out my guitar and began to play. The mother of the home was so touched by my performance that she could not speak—or breathe. My companion correctly diagnosed that my music while probably a contributing factor was not the sole cause. In her haste to be cordial to us, and her friends she had swallowed something that stuck in her throat. Ever anxious to serve, my companion stepped behind her and executed the Heimlich maneuver. The choke still stuck. He tried again a little harder. She is not a really big woman. He is built like an NFL linebacker. After the second crush of her rib cage, she waved the stop signal and staggered out of his reach, coughing, but breathing. Down the hall she weaved maybe headed for the bathroom window. No. She soon returned. Gracious and hospitable, but subject to short coughing spasms.

Her husband remained calm. When you have fought in the jungles of Viet Nam, made a career as a security officer in the States and abroad, and are standing on one knee you were born with, and one manufactured by physicians and necessitated by a terrorist bomb in Afghanistan, a little domestic drama doesn’t raise your heart rate.

Meanwhile I had picked up the pace on my guitar, then shortened our message so we could let this family finish their dinner and cough in private.

We apologized that we had interrupted their peaceful afternoon and chased off their friends. But the wife was gracious as usual. Without realizing it, she also had the best line of the whole encounter. She said, “It’s alright. They are members of the church. They have home teachers too.”

Miracles

Few experiences in this life are more gratifying than sitting in the congregation while your grandchild reports his or her Church mission. Stockton Hiatt included in his account several miracles he had experienced; miracles clothed in various raiment.

He told of two young children in Africa; their situation unfortunately not uncommon. They were two more children than their parents felt they could support so they were left at an orphanage. The boy was four. His little sister was two. Yet, a worker told them “You are too old for people to want to adopt you. You will probably spend your life here in the orphanage.”

The little boy was crushed. He wanted to be in a family. He made it a point of personal prayer. He had never prayed before, and didn’t know the formalities He could only pour out his heart to heaven and hope for the best.

Meanwhile in the town of Billings Montana a mature married couple prayed. Prayer was not new to them. They prayed, “Heavenly Father our family is grown now. We have space and financial means to reach out and bless other people. What would you like us to do?”

God heard their prayer and matched it with the prayer coming from the orphanage in Africa. The couple adopted the two children and took them to their new home in America. Prayers answered mission accomplished, miracle received

The second miracle was to a young man, a talented athlete. The high point of his impressive high school career was out leaping a wide receiver a foot taller than he was to knock away the pass and seal for his school the state football championship.

He was anticipating even greater things at the collegiate level. Then tragedy struck. He contracted a disease that would leave him crippled for life. At least sufficiently handicapped that he would never play sports as he had before. He was bitter. The Heavenly Father he had trusted all his childhood had let him down. What was the use of praying to a God who had so little power or so little concern that he could not fix his devastated life?

He left his activity in the church, and lost his hope for the future. This was his condition when Stockton and his missionary companion found him. Stockton himself had interrupted a college football career to serve his mission. So he could identify with the young man’s love of sports, and console him. No obvious miracle on the outside, but in the boy’s heart a more important one. He found his lost faith, and looked forward to a happy and productive life even within his limitations.

An older woman confined to a wheelchair for many years had resigned herself to this condition. But she asked for a blessing to give her patience to endure. Stockton and his companion went to the tiny house where she lived with her daughter.

In the blessing Stockton found himself promising the woman that she would walk again. She thanked them for the words of comfort. And they left her home.

As they walked down the wheelchair ramp that covered her front steps, they were prompted to stop. They sat down on the ramp and Stockton said, “For some reason, I think we should pray.” The reason was made manifest in the prayer. They had the distinct impression that they should return to the woman’s kitchen. She was surprised when they knocked again, but invited them in. Stockton said, “We have not finished our work here. The Lord promised you through us that you would walk again. Now it is time for you to walk. Stand up and walk.”

The woman haltingly raised herself supported by the arms of her chair. She let go and stood unsteadily. Her daughter said, “Mother be careful you will fall.”

The mother did not fall. On trembling legs she took one step then two and several then she began to run and skip around in her small kitchen she even jumped up and down. Tears ran down the faces of all in the room.

This was a miracle indeed, on the level of the Apostle Peter saying to the crippled man, “In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth rise up and walk.” (Acts 3:6) It was biblical in its proportions.

Stockton didn’t intend to enter a national debate, but such does exist between the “Magical Thinkers” and the “Scientific Thinkers.” For a quick overview see columnist Jerry Earl Johnston’s discussion “In the modern world, there’s scant room for magic,” Deseret News, June 20, 2015, p. C1. For an older philosophical/theological treatment I suggest Miracles, by C.S. Lewis, Simon & Schuster, New York, 1947. If you choose this route, set aside some time, and your predispositions. It’s a deep and interesting trip.

The Magical Thinking movement has entered the halls of ivy with university courses being offered on everything from unexplainable events to witchcraft. Scientific thinking was already ensconced in academia and, if current trends continue may become America’s unofficial national religion.

Those who choose to exclude the miraculous from their universe of possibilities may interpret Stockton’s experiences using only their logic. The African children’s adoption might be classed as a coincidence. Kindly people reaching out and helping children is not too uncommon even in today’s sometimes hardened world.

The young man’s change to a more positive attitude was admirable, but not outside the realm of natural possibility. His body was not miraculously healed.

The strengthened legs of the woman might be explained as a psychosomatic condition cured by the encouragement of the elders triggering a new resolve and providing energy to her legs.

The Magical Thinking people would have no problem accepting all these things as miracles. They would also accept many other things that I, and perhaps you would not classify as miraculous.

Who is to have the final say on these and other such events? I suggest we give that authority to the people who experienced them.

I suspect the African child does not believe his prayers were answered by a cosmic game of chance. I think the athlete knows that it is by God’s grace that his heart was healed and he can now look ahead through new and happier eyes. The dancing lady must have known she was standing through strength beyond her own.

And there was one more miracle that Sunday, the authenticity of which I claim the authority to decree. Stockton didn’t know he had reported this one, but the rest of us got the message. He, like tens of thousands of other young men and young women, had answered the call of Jesus to, “Follow me.”

He had thereby matured to true manhood through his service to the Master of Miracles.

That is a miracle to make the heart of a grandfather swell with gratitude.