Three mothers and others

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In order to avoid the rush, I am sending my 2014 Mothers’ Day message a little early. Actually, this is a talk I gave in church. Several people asked for a copy, so I thought you might find it interesting.

Duane

Three mothers and others

I would like to introduce you to three mothers.

The first is a mother who is in a rest home awaiting the close of her life. It probably will not be long. She is mentally and socially challenged according to medical and psychological definitions. But in her faith in God and her desire to serve him and his children, she makes most of us look retarded by comparison.

She never married, but recently she had a dream in which her Heavenly Father introduced her to her eternal husband. She is excited about that.

Twenty six years ago when her sister died of cancer, she became a mother for several months to her sister’s children. Their home would not have received the Good Housekeeping seal of approval. Their family organization was sketchy, the schedule haphazard, but she nurtured the little ones and served the older ones with all the dedication you could ask of a mother.

The second mother is a righteous, beautiful, and gifted woman who was promised in her patriarchal blessing that she would meet a worthy young man and have a large family. But the years past and the promised blessing did not unfold as she assumed they would. And so she became the favorite auntie of her nieces and nephews. She bonded with them, taught them, and became an example of noble womanhood to them. She did the same for her students in the schools and private teaching that became her career. Her talent and skill inspired and instructed young musicians. Her teaching and patient nurturing lifted the mentally challenged young people to whom she had dedicated her career.

Then one day the patriarchal promise came to pass. To fulfill her new calling as a mother, she changed her associations and activities to focus on her husband and children.

The third mother gave most of her adult years to the process of bearing and rearing children. She liked to quote a noble Roman woman of antiquity who was asked by visitors if they could see her jewels. The woman happily agreed. She had her children brought forth and said, “These are my jewels.”

This mother and her husband practiced family planning. Their plan was to welcome all the babies the Lord would choose to send to them. He chose to send a fair number, and he blessed this mother with the capacity to carry and give birth to these babies with few complications. She did suffer one miscarriage of what would have been their fourth child.

In her mid forties she felt sharp pains in her stomach. Emergency room doctors correctly diagnosed the problem as a tubule pregnancy and said they could not save the developing fetus. They added, “With fifteen children already, would you like us to remove your reproductive organs to avoid any future complications?”

She and her husband asked for time alone to consider. This mother said, “Tell them to take only what they have to. I have not come this far to back out now. If the Lord wants to send us more children, I want to be able to receive them.”

The doctors agreed, but when they operated, they found advanced ovarian cancer. It took her life.

These three mothers were my first wife’s sister Lynette, my second wife Sharon, and my first wife, Diane.

I have seen mothers in many other situations; women who mothered as teachers, neighbors, friends, counselors, healers, business and government officials, and virtually all walks of life. Some had children of their own, some did not yet. Many were limited by cultural customs, ignorance, or personal imperfections, but they sincerely tried.

The best definition of a mother I know is, “A woman who loves the Lord and wants to serve him by caring for his children whenever and wherever she has the opportunity.” For such women the Lord will, in his own wisdom and time, open the way and sustain them in their righteous desires.

Such women will be blessed to become queens and priestesses in the kingdom of God. They will share with their husbands the greatest glories of the celestial kingdom. There are neither bachelors nor single sisters in the most exalted realm of God’s kingdom.

He has said, “In the celestial glory there are three heavens or degrees; And in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this order of the priesthood [meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage]; And if he does not, he cannot obtain it.” (Doctrine and Covenants: 131)

Every person who chooses to be a husband or wife, father or mother shall have that opportunity. And unto them the Lord has promised:

“Ye shall come forth in the first resurrection; …  and shall inherit thrones, kingdoms, principalities, and powers, dominions, all heights and depths—… (they are they who) shall pass by the angels, and the gods, which are set there, to their exaltation and glory in all things, as hath been sealed upon their heads, which glory shall be a fullness and a continuation of the seeds forever and ever.

“Then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all things are subject unto them. Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them. (Doctrine and Covenants: 132)

“These are they whose bodies are celestial, whose glory is that of the sun, even the glory of God, the highest of all, whose glory the sun of the firmament is written of as being typical.” (Doctrine and Covenants: 76)

The women, who choose to, will beget eternal lives and nurture eternal families, worlds without end they will be mothers.

In order to avoid the rush, I am sending my 2014 Mothers’ Day message a little early. Actually, this is a talk I gave in church. Several people asked for a copy, so I thought you might find it interesting.

Duane

Three mothers and others

I would like to introduce you to three mothers.

The first is a mother who is in a rest home awaiting the close of her life. It probably will not be long. She is mentally and socially challenged according to medical and psychological definitions. But in her faith in God and her desire to serve him and his children, she makes most of us look retarded by comparison.

She never married, but recently she had a dream in which her Heavenly Father introduced her to her eternal husband. She is excited about that.

Twenty six years ago when her sister died of cancer, she became a mother for several months to her sister’s children. Their home would not have received the Good Housekeeping seal of approval. Their family organization was sketchy, the schedule haphazard, but she nurtured the little ones and served the older ones with all the dedication you could ask of a mother.

The second mother is a righteous, beautiful, and gifted woman who was promised in her patriarchal blessing that she would meet a worthy young man and have a large family. But the years past and the promised blessing did not unfold as she assumed they would. And so she became the favorite auntie of her nieces and nephews. She bonded with them, taught them, and became an example of noble womanhood to them. She did the same for her students in the schools and private teaching that became her career. Her talent and skill inspired and instructed young musicians. Her teaching and patient nurturing lifted the mentally challenged young people to whom she had dedicated her career.

Then one day the patriarchal promise came to pass. To fulfill her new calling as a mother, she changed her associations and activities to focus on her husband and children.

The third mother gave most of her adult years to the process of bearing and rearing children. She liked to quote a noble Roman woman of antiquity who was asked by visitors if they could see her jewels. The woman happily agreed. She had her children brought forth and said, “These are my jewels.”

This mother and her husband practiced family planning. Their plan was to welcome all the babies the Lord would choose to send to them. He chose to send a fair number, and he blessed this mother with the capacity to carry and give birth to these babies with few complications. She did suffer one miscarriage of what would have been their fourth child.

In her mid forties she felt sharp pains in her stomach. Emergency room doctors correctly diagnosed the problem as a tubule pregnancy and said they could not save the developing fetus. They added, “With fifteen children already, would you like us to remove your reproductive organs to avoid any future complications?”

She and her husband asked for time alone to consider. This mother said, “Tell them to take only what they have to. I have not come this far to back out now. If the Lord wants to send us more children, I want to be able to receive them.”

The doctors agreed, but when they operated, they found advanced ovarian cancer. It took her life.

These three mothers were my first wife’s sister Lynette, my second wife Sharon, and my first wife, Diane.

I have seen mothers in many other situations; women who mothered as teachers, neighbors, friends, counselors, healers, business and government officials, and virtually all walks of life. Some had children of their own, some did not yet. Many were limited by cultural customs, ignorance, or personal imperfections, but they sincerely tried.

The best definition of a mother I know is, “A woman who loves the Lord and wants to serve him by caring for his children whenever and wherever she has the opportunity.” For such women the Lord will, in his own wisdom and time, open the way and sustain them in their righteous desires.

Such women will be blessed to become queens and priestesses in the kingdom of God. They will share with their husbands the greatest glories of the celestial kingdom. There are neither bachelors nor single sisters in the most exalted realm of God’s kingdom.

He has said, “In the celestial glory there are three heavens or degrees; And in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this order of the priesthood [meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage]; And if he does not, he cannot obtain it.” (Doctrine and Covenants: 131)

Every person who chooses to be a husband or wife, father or mother shall have that opportunity. And unto them the Lord has promised:

“Ye shall come forth in the first resurrection; …  and shall inherit thrones, kingdoms, principalities, and powers, dominions, all heights and depths—… (they are they who) shall pass by the angels, and the gods, which are set there, to their exaltation and glory in all things, as hath been sealed upon their heads, which glory shall be a fullness and a continuation of the seeds forever and ever.

“Then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all things are subject unto them. Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them. (Doctrine and Covenants: 132)

“These are they whose bodies are celestial, whose glory is that of the sun, even the glory of God, the highest of all, whose glory the sun of the firmament is written of as being typical.” (Doctrine and Covenants: 76)

The women, who choose to, will beget eternal lives and nurture eternal families, worlds without end they will be mothers.

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